ok ladies. strip clubs and your man. hurtful or not? not about breaking up or not, just does it bother you? cause it hurts me. and i wouldnt tell bobby not to go or expect him to stop. but it hurts. and its hard for me to accept that men, and even some girls, look at girls and objectify them that way. even if lap dances arent even an issue, it hurts that he would need to go, and also that he looks at girls as just things. whatever. im so stupid and insecure. but i feel so alone on this. i have no one to talk to.